Heart on Sleeve

kwidine:

It’s not that hard to find like. Or lust. Or friendship. But love - true, epic, lasting love, the kind of love that leads you to celebrate 50 year anniversaries - is a whole other story.

As someone with two divorces under my belt, you may be reluctant to take love advice from me, and I wouldn’t blame you! But I’m nine years into my current marriage, and things are better than ever, so maybe I’ve learned a thing or two. Take it with a grain of salt, but in case something I’ve learned resonates with you and helps you find the kind of lasting love I’ve finally found, I wanted to share it with you.

1. You probably won’t get everything you need from one person. And that’s okay.

I used to think my romantic partner had to be my end all/be all. I had a list a mile long of what my partner had to do/be/think/like. I’ve since learned that many of the things on my list are mutually exclusive. In order to rock one, you’re likely to have to give up another. So how could one person possibly be everything?

Now I realize that I can get every need on my list met - but I have to seek outside my romantic partnership for some of it. For example, I adore my husband, but he’s agnostic. And I’m extremely spiritual. I love him unconditionally, so I’m not going to ask him to change his beliefs. But I need to find spiritual connection elsewhere. So I have friends I can call when I’m in spiritual crisis or want to share some miracle that’s happened in my life.

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(Source: Yahoo!)